The Universe Is Flirting with You

What signals is the universe sending to you?

How is it trying to get your attention?

A red cardinal might show up in your yard just after you lost someone important to you. This happy, vibrant bird is a sign that you are being visited by a loved one who has passed. 

Or perhaps you think about a distant cousin that you talk to infrequently, and just at that moment the phone rings: It is that person calling you. 

Or, you look up into the clouds for an instant and you see one in the clear shape of a heart.

These are quantum flirts.

Arny Mindell, scientist and founder of Process-Oriented Psychology, described a quantum flirt as “a short-lived, transient, perpetual signal which can be used to provide us with insight.”

What brief signals show up in your life, flashing like lighthouse beacons to catch your eye? And are you paying attention when they do?

I go to an awesome cooperative acupuncture studio where they treat 20 people at a time. We all sit in recliner chairs to get our treatment, and they cover us with blankets. Almost all of the blankets at this studio are grey, tan, or brown. And they have a lot of them.

But there is one light blue blanket with frogs all over it.  

These fat-bellied frogs aren’t leaping off their lily pads—they are just sitting, staring, and smiling.

And the acupuncturists keep covering me in that one frog blanket. 

It happens almost every other time I go there.

The part that is the universe flirting with me is that my mom—who passed 16 years ago—collected frogs. At one point she had 150 of them. And I used to draw frogs that look just like the ones all over this blanket.

In fact, it’s the only thing I can draw.

Every time one of the practitioners covers my legs with the blanket or rolls it up under my knees, I laugh, and say, “Hi Mom!”

And I smile, and remember her. I think about the cycle of life. I think about transformation. And renewal. And how I miss her. 

I was one of her three tadpoles. 

And I think about how energy moves worlds.

Frogs are amphibians, which means they live on land, but also in water, especially in their larval stage. They therefore can remind us of the cycle and transient nature of life. They connect us with the world of emotion and with feminine energy.

And they connect us to ancient wisdom.

As in, this world is made up of energy and matter. We are all made up of molecules, which are made up of atoms. And those things we are made of are constantly flowing.

Sometimes, this flowing energy sends a signal to us to wake us up from our mundane day-to-day lives. Friends and I have always acknowledged that if we don’t pay attention to the signals, they get louder. 

And brighter.

Sometimes they show up in neon.

So, when I see my frogs, I listen.

I think about what message my mom is trying to send me. What does she or the universe want me to know about today? Where do I need to be lighter on my feet? Where might I need to evolve to a new stage? What emotions do I need to sink deeper into?

Thanks to my mom, frogs show up regularly in my life. 

“Tell me to what you pay attention, and I will tell you who you are,” said Spanish philosopher Jose Ortega y Gasset.

What’s the universe’s preferred way to catch your eye? And what does that signal reveal about you?

Are you listening?

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